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This afternoon I had the privilege to attend a workshop of Marshall Goldsmith in Dauphine in Amsterdam. In a few weeks his book “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There” will be available in Dutch.
One of the points he stressed is that we should pay more attention to behaviors that we should stop instead of telling our selfs what we should do. We should stop wanting to win all the time, telling the world how smart we really are. Also he pointed out that we should stop passing judgment.
More than 60% of interpersonal communication is spent on people talking how smart, competent or good they are and people talking about how stupid, inept or bad someone else is. What a waste. In a lively workshop we worked on feedforward in stead of feedback.
What really struck me was the simplicity of his statement that behavioral change should focus on just 1 single behavior to change. If you just become a better listener, so many things would improve in your life. Changing behaviors can be daunting because of great pressure it can bring to your life. But just by breaking it down to one single step can bring relief.
He challenged us to pick just one thing that we would like to see changed in our behavior. What would you like to see changed in your behavior?
You can pick up the Dutch version here. English version here.
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1. Marshall Goldsmith Says:
februari 10th, 2008 at 23:35Thank you for this nice post.
I had a wonderful time in Amsterdam – and am glad that you found value in our time together. More important – thank you for putting what we discussed into practice!
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2. Lodewijkvdb Says:
februari 19th, 2008 at 00:48It’s a great book, and I would’ve loved to have participated in that workshop in Amsterdam.
It’s been quite some months since I’ve read it, and I get the feeling I should read it again. I’m currently reading “First Break All The Rules” by Marcus Buckingham, and there are quite some concepts in that book that have a correlation with Marshall’s book.
If you’re interested, I reviewed the book here:
http://blog.lodewijkvdb.com/2007/05/book_review_wha.htmlBut nothing beats a first hand experience!
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