Almost one month ago I wrote the last blogpost and the reason it took so long for the next one is sad. My mom has been ill for quite some time now and last week she passed away. Allthough missing her is tough, we are comforted that we know she went to be with the Lord. She had carefully chosen the text for the funeral:
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.
2 Timothy 4:7
Combine that with a change of jobs and you probably understand why writing blogposts haven’t been on my mind lately.But gradually I am trying to get a hold of things again. The fun part of using GTD is that in any given crisis in life you can just drop everything. The moment you feel the energy again to actually do things, you just start where you left off. My system was current when I had to refocus and reset my priorities to the bare minimum.
But now I just picked up where I left several weeks ago.
I want to share with you a video that I stumbled upon while I was reading through my feeds. It really got me thinking, could I do without email, my Treo and Internet for a whole week? Maybe I am going to try it someday, not for now.
This afternoon I had the privilege to attend a workshop of Marshall Goldsmith in Dauphine in Amsterdam. In a few weeks his book “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There” will be available in Dutch.
One of the points he stressed is that we should pay more attention to behaviors that we should stop instead of telling our selfs what we should do. We should stop wanting to win all the time, telling the world how smart we really are. Also he pointed out that we should stop passing judgment.
More than 60% of interpersonal communication is spent on people talking how smart, competent or good they are and people talking about how stupid, inept or bad someone else is. What a waste. In a lively workshop we worked on feedforward in stead of feedback.
What really struck me was the simplicity of his statement that behavioral change should focus on just 1 single behavior to change. If you just become a better listener, so many things would improve in your life. Changing behaviors can be daunting because of great pressure it can bring to your life. But just by breaking it down to one single step can bring relief.
He challenged us to pick just one thing that we would like to see changed in our behavior. What would you like to see changed in your behavior?
You can pick up the Dutch version here. English version here.
